I am working on respecting my own personal boundaries. This has been so hard for me to learn. I’m really good at respecting other’s boundaries, but when it comes to myself I will say “yes” to everything, wear myself completely out, just to please those around me. This is not healthy for me, my family, or my relationships. I have learned that lesson the hard way this past year.
This week I’ve had to let a couple people down by saying “I can’t do that. I do not have the time/resources/energy/priority available to assist with that.” It’s hard for me to disappoint people. It’s REALLY hard for me to disappoint people – especially people I love.
But here are a couple of people I did not let down this week….
And they (along with their sisters and dad) are worth all the “no”s I’ll have to build up the courage to say.
I am feeling a bit anxious (#recoveringpeoplepleaser), but peaceful about the boundaries I’ve put in place this week. I never want saying “yes” to something that’s not important to turn into saying “no” to something that is important.
I needed this reminder this week:
“Be peaceful. Believe in God and yourself. You are doing better than you think you are.” – Jeffrey R. Holland
See full talk HERE.
Valerie
Have you read “present over perfect”? I think you would love that book ? She talks about the importance of saying “no”
Case F. Johnston
Your words have resonated with us and we can’t wait to read more of your amazing content. Thank you for sharing your expertise and passion with the world.